The Hidden Swing Live Records from Club Eden

The Hidden Swing is excited to announce we’ll be doing our first live recording at an OKC’ premiere lifestyle club, Club Eden on January 7, 2017.  If you are traveling through or in the area, please come out party with us.  You’ll hear all the craziness of me and my co-hosts and witness it live as we answer questions and talk about lifestyle subjects into the night.

Find out more about this club at www.clubedenokc.com

Jim

Episode 70 – We Are Not on the Same Page

Episode 70 – When couples get into the lifestyle there is a rush of excitement and curiosity about what is to come.  As time progresses, some couples feel different levels of interest in the lifestyle and sometimes one spouse will decide they are no longer interested in playing.  In this episode, Danielle and I discuss a listener question that asks; What if my wife no longer wants to play.  

Small Talk

  • Opening
    • Swingers and Christmas Gifts
      • Do you?
        • What would make a good gift?
        • Dirty Santa
  • News
  • Contact info
  • Tonights show
    • Another listener question
    • The LS is not always fun
    • Sometimes couples find themselves in situations where one wants to play and the other is done.

Segment 1:  Amazon

  • Listener Questions:  My wife and I have LS friends we play with that have been obviously struggling for a while now. She stays in the LS because she likes to party and her friends are in the LS but she doesn’t want to play anymore.  He still wants to play and does but he leaves her out during any play time.  He acts like she isn’t even there.  Should we continue to play with this couple?  What would you tell them?
  • The the disclaimer that this is for entertainment purposes only.  Wow, tough question.
  • Talk about what you would tell the writer of the question first

Segment 2: MeUndies

  • Discuss couples that are differening ideas about being in the LS
  • They need lots of conversation
  • If they are not okay with hubby playing they need to get out.
  • If they are ok then there are options
  • But, true feelings need to be out in the open and if one says no more, no more

Final comments – Swingers Date Club

Episode 69 – Hall Passes and Separate Play

Episode 69 – There are many different styles of play in the lifestyle.  Most couples prefer to play same room.  But every now and then you’ll meet couples that prefer separate room or even hall passes, date, or many other sexy scenarios.  In this episode Jennifer and I discuss separate room and hall passes.  As an aside, Jennifer might sound out of it in this episode.. Big bad straight man made her record while she had bronchitis.. I’ve got a schedule to keep.  Enjoy.

Small Talk

  • Shout Out
    • Bliss Cruise
      • The Hidden Swing is cruising on the March 2017 Bliss Cruise to Coz and Progresso.  Hit us up if you are on that cruise or know of any FB groups regarding the cruise.
    • NiN
      • The Hidden Swing will be traveling en masse, hopefully, to New Orleans in July 2017 to celebrate the fourth and party with sexy swingers.
    • Average Swingers / Hidden Swing Pub Crawl in OKC April 1st
  • News
    • Like our Facebook page thehiddenswing.com/facebook
    • You can listen to us on
      • iTunes
      • Stitcher
      • Now on Google Play
  • Contact info

Segment 1: – Separate Play – Amazon.com

  • Most couples prefer playing together
    • See your partner
    • More erotic
  • Advantages of separate play
    • More intimacy
    • Less pressure
    • Not a race
  • Disadvantages
    • Jealousy
    • Intimacy
    • Feeling insecure

Segment 2: – Hall Passes – Swingers Date Club

  • Long distance partners
  • Couples with kids
  • Casual dating

Final comments – MeUndies

  • Join us on The Bliss Cruise in 2017 
  • Come to The Average Swingers, Hidden Swing pub crawl in OKC on April 1st.. No foolin.
  • Rate us on iTunes

Episode 68 – Listener Questions

Episode 68 – The Hidden Swing has always been about sexy stories and offering advice on managing the ups and downs of the swinging lifestyle.  Its for that reason that one of the greatest thrills for us is answering listener questions.  In this episode Danielle and I talk about how expensive the lifestyle can be, and answer the question “Why does everyone drink so much?”

BONUS Easter Egg Conversation at the end of this episode – Danielle gets the giggles

Small Talk

  • Opening
    • Listener Questions
      • This episode based of a listener email
        • Is the LS for the rich
        • Why does everyone drink so damn much
  • News
  • Contact info

Segment 1:  Is the LS only for the rich

  • Who is the LS
    • Go to a mall and look around
      • Its the same type of subsection you see at LS clubs.. Minus kids and the super elderly
    • Most are 30s and 40s with average jobs
    • Its the same as going to dinner with friends
  • Younger Adults
    • Have children
    • Maybe not an established career
    • My young swinger story
  • LS Sites
    • Get free time on Kasidie or SDC through The Hidden Swing
    • Memberships are less than 20 a month
    • Meet up with couples to go to dinner
    • Host your own party
    • Take a float trip
    • Organize your own events
    • Meet and Greets

Segment 2: Why does everyone drink so much

  • Its social lube
  • No one wants to fuck someone that’s shit faced
  • Blondes
    • You can decide that you only want to play with blondes
      • But you’ve shortened your playing field
    • You can decide that you will only play with people that don’t drink at all
      • But you’ve shortened your playing field
  • No one wants to be the slobbery drunk
  • Danielle falls off the PC train..

Segment 3: Drama

  • We briefly talk about how alcohol messes up relationships.
  • If you’re drunk, you’re not communicating
  • Its okay to argue, but don’t do it in front of your LS friends.
  • Play the “What If” game

Final comments –

  • Events
    • Naughty in Nawlins – July 4-9 2017
    • Blogger Couple – Lifestyle Virgin – Great blog about the lifestyle.. Check them out.
    • Bliss Cruise – March 20 – 25 2017 – Come party with us
    • April no Fools – The Hidden Swing/Average Swingers OKC Pub Crawl – April 1 2017
  • Rate us on iTunes

Episode 67 – Couplicious & Hot Couple

  • Shout Out
    • Couplicious
      • TY for introducing us to your fun game.  If you havent looked into this game it is actually one of the FUN ice breaker games out there.. We’ll be reviewing it in this episode.
    • Bliss Cruise
      • The Hidden Swing is cruising on the March 2017 Bliss Cruise to Coz and Progresso.  Hit us up if you are on that cruise or know of any FB groups regarding the cruise.
    • NiN
      • The Hidden Swing will be traveling en masse to New Orleans in July 2017 to celebrate the fourth and party with sexy swingers.
    • Average Swingers / Hidden Swing Pub Crawl in OKC April 1st
  • News
  • Contact info

Segment 1: –  Amazon.com

  • Thinking outside your box
  • Being real about what you want
  • Settling

Segment 2: – Swingers Date Club

  • Is that couple TOO hot?
  • Feeling nervous, doubtful
  • Chance encounter leads to more conversation

Segment 3: – MeUndies

  • The hook up
  • Solid connections
  • Total confidence
  • The Story

Final comments

Episode 66 – Getting to Yes, How has the lifestyle changed you, and Halloween

Small Talk

  • Opening
    • Taking breaks
      • Life Happens
      • We produce on our own time, when we have something to say
  • News
  • Contact info
  • Tonights show
    • Closing the Deal
    • How the LS Changes a Person
    • Halloween

Segment 1:  Closing the Deal

  • Everyone is nervous
  • If your conversation last more than 5 mins, you’re probably both interested
  • It doesn’t all have to lead to sex
  • Just ask

Segment 2: How the LS Changes You

  • Energizes your life
  • Makes you more confident
  • Makes you think about being more fit
  • Makes you more of a drunk

Final comments – Halloween

  • Halloween
    • Costume
    • Plans
  • Rate us on iTunes

Episode 65 – #TTChat Questions Answered

 

Episode 65 – A couple times a month, the good people over at Topless Travel host a twitter chat that allows podcasters, bloggers, and sexy sexy swingers to answer questions about the LS by using the hashtag #TTChat. In this episode, Jennifer and I explore our answers to their questions and share that with you.

  • Topless Travel
    • A couple times a month, Topless Travel hosts #TTChat to discuss topics in the lifestyle. How do you see this TTChat?.
  • Bliss Cruise
    • The Hidden Swing is cruising on the March 2017 Bliss Cruise to Coz and Progresso. Hit us up if you are on that cruise or know of any FB groups regarding the cruise.
  • News
    • Like our Facebook page thehiddenswing.com/facebook
      You can listen to us on

      • iTunes
      • Stitcher
      • Now on Google Play
        • thehiddenswing.com/google
      • Contact info
        @hiddenswing
        @hiddenswing_jen
        topics@thehiddenswing.com

Segment 1: – Amazon.com

Q1: Have you ever had any issues regarding consent with your partner or another couple?

Q2: Did you ever experience a complete communication breakdown between your partner or another couple?

Q3: Were you ever in a situation where you someone found your online swinger profiles? How did you handle it?

Q4: What are your thoughts on swinger parties with drugs and alcohol involved? Do you try avoiding them?

Segment 2: – MeUndies

Q5: Have you ever been in a bad situation involving STDs at swinger parties? How would you handle it?

Q6: How many times have you had issues where someone refused to put on a condom or a condom breaks during intercourse?

Q7: Have you ever been in any extreme situations where you considered stepping away from the lifestyle?

Q8: What are some things that can done to reverse the bad reputation of swinging in the vanilla world?

Final comments – Swingers Date Club

Thank you for the support during our break.
People love that we are real in our discussions.
Join us on The Bliss Cruise in 2017 –
Rate us on iTunes

Episode 64 – Meet and Greet in OKC

Small Talk

Segment 1: –  Amazon.com

  • Setting the stage
  • Newbie Couples
  • Cliques
    • We talked to a new couple about cliques.
  • Recognition.
    • Butts and Boobs

Segment 2: – MeUndies

  • We hit a Swirl Bar called Sherlocks in OKC
  • Damn good band –The Brown Note

Segment 3: – SDC Swingers Date Club

  • Our first soft swap experience

Final comments

Performance Anxiety in the Lifestyle

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The bulk of ED comes in a a few flavors. Statistically a few men have ED because of health issues, a few more have issues (in the lifestyle in particular) because of over intoxication, but the bulk of performance issues is due to anxiety. I rarely have issue these days. When I do it is often because I allowed myself to be in situations I am not comfortable with. I love a challenge, and while that sometimes sucks for the lady I am with.. I like to push myself.

Here are three ways I have taken control of performance anxiety: Continue reading ‘Performance Anxiety in the Lifestyle’ »

Episode 63 – Group Sex

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Small Talk

Segment 1:

  • How does Group differ from Orgy, Gang Bang?
  • Construction, numbers, activities, is one easier to set up than another.

Segment 2:

  • How does consent work?
  • If you join is consent implied?
  • How do you stop or prevent play or a violation of your limit without causing drama or negatively affecting others and the entire mood?

Segment 3:

  • Whats your best group story?
    • Jim
    • Danielle

Final comments

  • Annual OKC Pool Party
  • Naughty in Nawlins
    • Michael and Holli from Swing
  • Rate us on iTunes